Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will embrace the unconditional love that Universe has for me."

 

Above all else, Love.

 

Love begins with acceptance.  It involves a willingness to say, "Even with all your human flaws, I accept you."  When we say this, we do not put conditions on our love; thus, unconditional love.

 

This is the type of love that we have for our children.  This is the type of love our pets have for us.  It is love with no strings attached. 

 

It is the love, in the greatest of proportions, that Universe gives us.

 

We should understand that this love exists in Universe.  That our Higher Power gives us this love freely, regardless of what we have done, where we have been, and where we are going.

 

It is a love of great compassion, forgiveness, and understanding.

 

Walk through your day today reminding yourself that you are loved.  Your are loved in the most powerful of ways, in the most unshakable of ways. 

 

Universe's love for you, for all of us, never wavers.  It is steady and true and constant and nonjudgmental.

 

Open your mind to embrace this idea of Universe's unconditional love for you.  Open your heart to feel and accept and receive Universe's love for you.

 

The Beatles sang, "All you need is Love.  All you need is Love, Love.  Love is all there is.  Love is all there is."

 

In Light and Love-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today I reclaim ownership of my own life."

Don't settle.

Stop believing that you life is as good as it gets.  Don't settle for less than you deserve to have.

When you shrug your shoulders and say, "whatever" and settle for the way things are, you abdicate responsibility for your life.  You relinquish control over your life.  You become a victim of your own life.

Don't do it!  Don't do it!

Realize that you, and you alone, are in charge in living your life, are responsible for your own living.

It if sucks, you have a responsibility to yourself to make it better.  Seek out ways to make it better, to make you better so that you are more capable of running your own show.

And it is your show, really it is.  Other people's lives may intersect with yours, but you are the ringmaster of your own circus!

Ruminate on this, really, really think about it.  Accept it.  Say to yourself, "I am in control of my own life."  Say it as often as you need to begin believing it, to accept believing it.

Pick up the baton, and conduct the orchestra of your life.  Let your life vibrate with your own choices, the ones you make for yourself and not the ones others choose for you.

It's ok to say, "I can do it myself.  I am capable of doing it myself."  Remember, life is a process.  It is indeed a process to begin thinking for yourself, changing your thinking about your life, and ultimately, taking ownership and responsibility for your own life.

But you deserve, we all deserve, to own our own lives.  To rejoice in our successes and to mourn at our failures. 

In Love and Light-Always,
Robin

 Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, like Thoreau, I will live deeply and suck the marrow out of life."

              "I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential          

              facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to        

              die, discover that I had not lived. I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so       

              dear; nor did I wish to practice resignation, unless it was quite necessary. I wanted to       

              live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan-like as to        

              put to rout all that was not life..." --Henry David Thoreau from Walden

 

This is one of the most impacting quotes from one of my favorite authors.  It brings us to the brink of living, true living, and challenges us to make a choice between simply existing or truly experiencing our process.

 

Thoreau literally went into the woods, but he also willfully and consciously went into his own heart and mind and contemplated what he needed to begin living deliberately. 

 

The difference between living mindfully and living deliberately is that living mindfully implies awareness, being aware of what you are doing and how you are doing it.  Deliberateness implies purpose.  Living with purpose, taking action, being in charge of your life in order to give it meaning and significance.

 

As for me, I do want to live with awareness, I do want to live deliberately. I want to know, really know, myself, know what I feel, know what I believe. I want to make everything I do count for something, whether it is transferring knowledge to my students or sharing wisdom with my readers or participating and helping to create family unity.  I want to write books and create a prospering craft business and open a retreat center and meditate and heal and be happy and watch my children become masters of their own lives.  I want it all! 

 

I want to "go into the woods" and "suck the marrow" out of life and live sturdily and deliberately.

 

Consider for yourself.  Are you willing to "go into the woods" and "suck the marrow" out of life?  If so, then what are you waiting for? 

In Love and Light-Always,
Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will ask Universe to help cultivate mindfulness, simplicity, and to reawaken me."

Mindfulness, simplicity, and reawakening.

 

Wake up, stop slumbering.  Open your eyes, sleepy one.  See life in its true form.  See where you stand on the earth.  Look behind you, what do you see?  Look ahead, what do you see?

 

Where do you want to be?  And why are you still standing here?  Choose a path and take it.

 

The world is yours and you can go wherever you want to.  Follow your intuition.  It is simple. 

 

Following your intuition can bring you mindfulness.  It can bring simplicity.  It brings you reawakening.

 

Ask Universe to open your heart and mind  and fill your spirit.  If you ask, then Universe will answer.  With Universe's help, you can achieve anything.  All is possible.  Yes, you will have to do the work, but Universe makes it possible for us to do the work.  Universe puts into our paths all that is needed to progress, all that is needed for our reawakening.

 

Say this to Universe, "Universe, make me mindful of my living and my process.  Help me to simplify my life,.  Reawaken my spirit so that I can reach my full potential."

 

Say this every day, multiple times a day.  Write it on a card and keep it in your pocket if you have to.  Post it in you locker or on your desk or on the bathroom mirror.  The more you see it, the more you say it, the more you believe it, the more is manifests in your life.

 

Make the decision today to live mindfully, to live simply, and to reawaken to your own spiritual process.

In Love and Light-Always,
Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will consider living a simpler life."

"Simplicity, simplicity, simplicity!" -Henry David Thoreau

 

Ah, to live a simple life!  Don't we all want to live an uncomplicated life?  What does it mean to live simply, to live an uncomplicated life?

 

Living simply means doesn't necessarily mean to give up your current and go off and live in a cabin in the woods, but for those who find this appealing, then maybe it does mean this!  In fact, I do find the idea very appealing, but unfortunately, impractical.

 

So, if we are not going to give up our creature comforts then how do we create simplicity?

 

The answer is simple: If we change our point of view that life has to be hard, that life has to be complicated, that life involves constant struggle, then we are half way there.

 

Consider what you need in your life, not what you want, but what you need to meet the requirements. 

 

Do you really need to keep all that stuff in your basement and attic?  Is it serving any purpose or is it just stuff that you have been hanging onto because it has "memories"?  Look, the memories are not in stuff, they are in your heart and mind.  Let go of the stuff and treasure the memories.

 

Do you really need to accumulate more stuff?  Isn't the stuff you have enough?  Yes, ok, so your current sofa is a mess and you need a new one, so go buy a new sofa, but don't forget to throw the other one away.  When you bring something new into your home, get rid of something of equal weight. 

 

Do you really need to keep those who bring you grief and pain?  Get rid of them.  Simplify your relationships.  How can you get rid of them?  Unfriend them or limit contact with them or eliminate them completely by severing ties.

 

Do you really need to hang onto fear, anxiety, pain, disappointment, resentment, bitterness, hatred, low self esteem, feelings of inadequacy?  NO, (excuse the expression, but) HELL NO!  How are clinging to these making your life simple?  They are not.  Work your way through them, ask Universe to help you, seek out a professional, make amends (and don't forget to make amends to yourself), forgive, accept, join a 12 step program if you need to, but simplify your life by moving on once and for all.

 

Do you really need to be at the beck and call of every person in your life?  No, learn to say, "No, I'm sorry I just can't do that."  And don't feel guilty about it.  Put yourself first for a change.

 

yes, it does sound simple, but in order to create simplicity, we need to untangle the mess we have created for ourselves first.  Once we have cleaned out, let go, we will have less to manage.  It will take vigilance to keep to a simple life.  It takes work to create a simple life.  But working hard to maintain a simple life is far better than overworking to maintain a complicated life.  Think about it.

 

If you are on board, if you are tired of complication, if you really are committed to creating simplicity, then take action.  Do one thing at a time.  Creating simplicity is a process like any other.  Pick something with which to begin, like cleaning out a closet or a drawer or the garage.  Do one thing at a time, and when it is finished, really finished, then move on to something else.

 

Cleaning out your life, brings a freshness, room to grow and breathe.  When you have this space available, the Universe can move in in a mighty way bring you all that you need. 

In Love and Light-Always,
Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will begin living mindfully."

Each year we are given the opportunity for personal growth.  As the seasons evolve, so should we.  Look to nature for your cues. 

 

Think of the bear.  He is a perfect example of mindful living:  In the fall he prepares for hibernation and the upcoming season.  In the winter, he rests.  In the spring, he begins again.  In the summer, he enjoys the bounty of the season.

 

If we live as the bear does, in fall, setting our lives in order, in winter, resting and planning, in spring, feeling renewed and ready to put our plan into action, and in summer, reaping the benefits of the process, then we will be living mindfully.

 

Mindful living is one of the best actions we can take in order to do ourselves a good service.  Each day when you awaken, say to yourself, "Today, I will live with mindfully."  Be fully aware of what you are thinking, what you are doing, how you are acting, what type of energy you are bringing into your day.

 

Let today be your first day of living mindfully.

In Love and Light-Always,
Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will begin examining what needs to "fall" away from my life."

 

For all things, there is a season.  Happy Fall Equinox! 

 

Fall has begun.  Today is the first day.  Make the most of it.  Meditate on what needs to fall from you life in order for it to be more productive and enriching.

 

Examine the areas of your life:  relationships, job/career, finances, health.  See where you can eliminate those things that have diminished or have become outmoded.  Make a plan to leave behind what no longer serves you.  Look to the upcoming spring 2016 as a time of growth and prepare for it now.

 

Set all things in order  in your life.

 

2016 is a keystone year for many.  It is the year in which big changes will take place.  There is lots of movement in the upcoming year, and the best way to prepare, is to begin shedding what is no longer useful to you.

 

Use this fall season for that purpose:  to examine, reevaluate, and shed.  Before you know it, winter will be here.  It will be a time to hibernate, meaning that the events in your life may seem to stagnate.  Don't fight it.  Let it play out.  Invest the winter in thinking and planning, especially for spring where you will see the payoff of your fall and winter season. 

 

There is no time like the present season to make embrace a deliberate plan for your future.  Remember:  Fall-analyze, reevaluate, shed, release.  Winter-rest, gather your thoughts, make a plan.  Spring-put your plan into action, see the outcome of fall and winter preparation.  Summer-reap what you have sown and enjoy the results.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will honor my own process."

 

 

Each of us has a process, and that process involves living our lives, learning from our experiences, and gaining wisdom.

 

It is very difficult to navigate the seas of our lives sometimes.  We are met with big waves, stormy seas, rocky embankments, but we also experience the calm sea, the gently rolling waves, the sandy beach, and there are also the stagnant seas, no wind, no waves, we sit there unmoving and having to row and row to get to our destination.

 

But, with each stroke, with each successful avoidance of the rocks, with each wave we overcome, and with each safe harbor, we learn.  We learn how to navigate.  We learn how to sail and to row.  We begin to appreciate the safe harbors and sandy beaches and to beware the rough seas and how to avoid smashing ourselves on the rocks.

 

Each step of our learning contributes to our process, our process of living.  Each step is necessary in order to bring about wisdom.  Think about all of the experiences you have had, those that stand out in your memory.  Recognize what you have learned from them.  Recognize how your life changed because of those experiences.

 

 

When I was a kid, my father used to say, "You play with fire, you get burned."  He was right, of course.  There were times that I did play with fire and I did get burned, but I learned that fire hurts and that I should avoid it in the future.  I learned many, many valuable lessons by both touching fire and avoiding it.

 

Now, as an adult, I can better appreciate the experiences that I have had and can now see how those experiences contributed to where I am, in my own process, right now.

 

So, dearies, embrace your process.  Honor your process.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin



Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will honor silence."

 

Sometimes it is just better not to say anything at all.  This one is difficult for me, and this lesson is one that I have been learning since I was a child.  Although I am much improved at keeping my mouth shut, sometimes the urge to blurt out my thoughts and feelings still overwhelms me, and out it comes! 

 

Many years ago, an administrator of mine gave me a precious piece of guidance.  He said, "Always take the high road."  I knew exactly what he meant, and I have embraced it. 

 

Everything we do, everything we say, is a choice.  It is a choice to descend into the lower aspects of our character, or to rise above our own pettiness, rise out of our lower aspects of character and to choose rightly.

 

I try to practice this every day.  I try to gauge my words so that they are more diplomatic and not hurtful to others.  I try to hold back my wicked sarcasm and harsh words so that I do not cause damage to others.

 

I know, you are thinking, "but what if I want to cause damage to others?  What if I want to defend myself and the only way is to speak harshly?"  I understand, I really do, trust me, but what I have found, is that after I have blasted someone or spoken out without thinking it through, I have always been sorry about it afterward.  In some cases, I felt so badly that I felt compelled to apologize.

 

I am much better now with biting my tongue, with just smiling, or just turning and walking away.  I am much better with voicing my words innocuously, meaning, that they are harmless words.  They still contain my message, of course, but at least they don't burn and scald.

 

Let my struggle with my sharp tongue be an inspiration to you to gauge your own speech, to think through what you are going to say and how you are going to say it.

 

Sometimes, silence is the best option.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will be more mindful of my actions and live a more mindful life."

 

 

"What goes around, comes around."  "You get what you give."  "You reap what you sow."  "Every dog will have his day."  "You make your bed, you lay in it."  "Karma is a bitch." 

 

All of these represent the same thing:  that our actions follow us and at some point in time, we are held accountable for our actions.

 

Knowing this is true (it is true), it should either motivate us or inspire us to live more mindfully, to be more aware of how our actions impact our overall life experience.

 

Karma is about balance, learning lessons, and making progress on our chosen paths.  Think of it as a see-saw.  On one side there is an action, and in order for balance to occur, an action of the same weight must be placed on the other side.  If one side becomes out of balance because it is too heavy (wrong action), then in order for balance to be reestablished, it must be righted; thus, we must learn that what we had done, brings negative consequences.  We must learn by being in the same position so as to cultivate knowledge and compassion.

 

Karma is not a punishment system, oh, no, it is not, so don't think of it in those terms.  Karma is a way to give us the opportunity to learn from the human experience, to make us aware, to make us accountable for all of our actions, not just our mistakes.

 

Appropriate action results in appropriate action.  Inappropriate action results in consequences. 

 

So, my dear friends, give more thought to how your actions (and thoughts) impact your overall human experience.  Work toward trying to take right action more often than not.  Embrace the opportunity to live an untangled, productive, compassionate life.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

 



Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will accept the change that Universe has planned for me."

 

 

"Change is good, but it's not easy."-The Lion King

 

 

Transition, change, is definitely not easy, but it is necessary.  It helps us to shed the old and welcome the new.  It is meant to bring us to another level of consciousness and another level of living productively.

 

When change comes into your life, embrace it.   Don't fight it.  You may not know why it is happening or where it will lead, but one thing is certain:  Universe is in charge and Universe is moving you for a higher purpose. 

 

Trust in the Universe to move you to where you need to be.  Know that although there may be a time of acclimation, it is for the best.  Look at transition as a blessing.

 

Sometimes it is very, very difficult to remove ourselves from a situation or environment that no longer serves us, but we just cannot let it go or we don't have the means to change it ourselves.  When we find ourselves here, Universe moves in in a mighty way.  Universe brings the old to a close and opens up new opportunities.

 

Don't be afraid of change.  View it as a positive move in your life. Bless the old for all that it has taught you and brought you and open your heart to the clean slate, to the new life waiting for you.  you can make it whatever you want it to be and Universe supports you.

 

embrace change.  Do not try to stop it.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will follow my head and not my heart."

 

 

We associate the heart with our emotions, and in this case, sometimes it is better not to follow our hearts because our overpowering emotions can lead us into dangerous water.  Sometimes it is better to get our of the heart and into the head.

 

The "head", the mind, is the seat of rational thought.  There is nothing wrong with rational thought.  Rational thought helps us to reason, to make logical decisions, especially in times in great emotional upheaval.  And during these times of great emotional upheaval, our hearts may lead us astray, they may lead us into places that are not good for us.

 

 

When we are in the midst of chaos, the head and heart go to war.  Our hearts, tell us one thing, but our minds tell us the opposite.  It is hard, no doubt to bring the two into harmony and the battle within rages on.  Most of the time, it is the heart that wins, and sometimes it is not the best. 

 

Today, I want you consider the relationship between your emotions and your rational thought.  Evaluate whether you tend to mostly go with your emotional side or with your rational side when chaos comes into your life.

 

If you tend to usually give in to the emotional and ignore the rational, then perhaps it is time to try to bring the two into harmony.  Don't discount the rational.  The rational exists to balance the emotional.  And sometimes the rational as opposed to the emotional brings us to a better decision.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin



Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will not be deterred from my path by obstructions."

 

As we walk the path on the journey of our lives, we suddenly may find ourselves on the edge of a chasm, at the bank of a deep river, at the foot of jagged mountains, face to face with a tangled jungle, or on a road obstructed by a large fallen tree.  What do we do?

 

There are experiences like this.  Experiences that stop us in our tracks.  Experiences that seem insurmountable.  These are the events that make us think that we cannot possible go on.  That the journey is over and there is no where to go.

 

But no, these are not insurmountable.  They are temporary stopping places intended for us to reevaluate.  To make important decisions, to do a self check or to consider what our options are.

 

If an obstruction has presented itself in your path today, consider its significance and determine wht it has to teach you.

 

Don't give up, don't feel hopeless.  Rely more heavily on Universe than you ever have before.  Trust that if Universe has brought you to this place, then Universe has a reason for it, and that Universe will help you to overcome it.

 

Breathe, say a prayer, ask for spiritual assistance.  If you open yourself to Universe, Universe will show you the way.  It is that simple.

 

Trust Universe to take you across the chasm, across the river, over the mountain, through the tangled jungle, and over the fallen tree.

 

The other side awaits you.  The other side is calling.  The other side promises wisdom, growth, and the next part of the journey.

In Love and Light-Always,
Robin

 



Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I am on a journey.  I embrace my journey."

 

Perhaps one reason that you may be feeling aimless is because Universe is trying to encourage you to find your way, to embrace the idea that your life is a journey and that you are responsible for that journey. 

 

Sitting on the sidelines of your own journey may be ok for now.  Sometimes we need to sit on the sidelines because it lets you see what is happening around you and inside of you, but sitting on the sidelines for too long, inhibits the progress you could be making if you just got up and walked the walk.

 

Wake up each morning and tell yourself, "I am on a journey.  I embrace my journey.  Where shall the journey lead me today?"

 

Begin by dealing with what presents itself in your path on this day.  Refuse to be rattled by it and look at it as an opportunity to actively take part in  your own life.  Begin developing an awareness of how what you have done and where you have been has a direct correlation to where you find yourself right now at this moment.  Nothing in your life is unrelated.  See every experience and choice you have made as contributing to the NOW.

 

Make a commitment to yourself; make a commitment to consciously and actively walking the path with purpose and awareness.  Let each step you take today, lead you to your next step of conscious awareness, of true ownership of your journey.

 

In Light and Love-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will remind myself that, even in times of great darkness, the Light still surrounds me."

 

"Not all who wander are lost."-Lord of the Rings

 

Yes, but some are lost.  But being lost is part of the human journey.  It is part of the search, it is part of the process of discovery and renewal.  If we were never lost, then how would we recognize we were exactly where we should be?

 

If you are feeling lost today, do not despair, the light is with you and that this moment of feeling/being lost will come to a close and the light, once again, will fill your life.

 

In order to appreciate the light and to recognize the light, we must experience the darkness.  It is in the darkness that we are confronted with our fears and shames and resentments and uncertainties and we question our own purpose, but as we travel through the darkness, and we shed those fears, shames, resentments, and uncertainties, more and more light pours in.  We become illuminated and new.

 

So, don't despair the darkness.  Embrace it as a time of self discovery and self education.  Look at what your heart is showing you that you still need to do or learn, and them embrace it.

 

The Light never truly goes away, the Light is always around us, the darkness is generated from within.  So don't think that Universe has abandoned you, believe that Universe is there supporting you, rooting for you to recognize what is most important for you to recognize so that more and more enlightenment blesses you.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will remember that I am an integral part of humanity, the planet, and the cosmos.

 

 

Sometimes we get very overwhelmed with what is happening in our lives that we forget that what is happening in our own lives is interrelated with all that is going on with events outside ourselves.  Yes, I mean global events and human events.

 

What is happening in our world is a direct result of mass negative thinking.  If we could change our thinking on a large scale, we could change what is going on around us.

 

If we could move out of our own small mental and emotional environment, I mean our heads and hearts, we could effect change worldwide.

 

Perhaps it is time for us to use our minds and hearts to not only get ourselves in order, but to pour more positive energy into our world.

 

Next time you sit down to meditate or pray, send a little love and peace and healing energy to the planet and its people, one of whom you are.

 

As the planet heals, we heal; as we heal, the planet heals.

 

Never forget that you are an integral part of the whole of humanity and the planet and the cosmos.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

 



Today's Affirmation

 

"Today I will choose my attitude."

 

What will my attitude be today?  Each day we have a choice of what our attitude will be.  We get to decide. 

 

If we wake up cranky and sour, we can change it, we can.  It's all in the mind.  It is talking to ourselves, telling ourselves that we can have a good day, that we can have a brighter outlook, that we can smile and be lighthearted, that things can go our way.

 

Where the problem resides is in our feelings.  We cling to those negative feelings.  For some strange, odd, bizarre reason, we like them.  They comfort us.  And in some cases, we feel as if they empower us.  This is why we don't work harder to amend them into something positive.  This is why when we wake up a Grumpy Gus, we stay a Grumpy Gus.

 

But, really, what are those negative feelings doing for us?  Nothing.  If anything, they push people away, they see us coming and duck or walk the other way or go on the defensive.

 

When we do not change our attitude, we, ourselves, you and me, are actively choosing to interfere with the quality of our day.  We could have a good day if we change our feelings about it.

 

We should want to have as many positive, cheerful days as possible.

 

So today, if you woke up grumpy, or if you get grumpy throughout the day, change it.  Don't let it rule you.  Choose to smile, choose to be pleasant instead of biting somebody's head off.  Choose to convert your negative attitude into a positive one.

 

If we do this, we can have a much more productive and positive day.  And we'll get more positive feedback from others; they'll smile at us, be more inclined to approach us, support us.

 

Try it and see.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

 

 



Today's Affirmation

 

"No matter how busy my day is, I will make time for myself."

 

All day, every day, we give to others.  We give to our families, we give to our job, we give, give, give.  But when do we give to ourselves? 

 

Each and every day we need to make a point to take, even for a few minutes, time for ourselves.  I can hear you now, "Are you kidding?  I don't have time to take time for myself!  When am I supposed to find the time for that?"

 

The answer is if you want time for yourself, to reground, center, balance yourself, if you want time to take a breath, calm down, or sit in silence without anyone bothering you, then you MUST make time for yourself.

 

It is not necessary to take a whole hour at one time if you don't have a whole hour, what about just taking 10  minutes? or 5 minutes?  At your job, if you get a scheduled break, go out to your car, sit for a few moments, breathe, slow your thinking, say a prayer, or just sit there quietly with your eyes closed.  At home, take a hot shower or a bath and put a "Do Not Disturb" sign on the door, or instead of having to cook dinner, everybody gets eggs or cereal or order out a pizza.

 

It is time to begin, a minute at a time if you have to, to take care of yourself.  If you don't, who will?  Your colleagues?  Your boss?  Your spouse?  Your children?  No, You have to take care of yourself!

 

Give yourself permission.  A few minutes at a time throughout the day will do you wonders.  Trust me.

 

In Light and Love-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will reevaluate my expectations of others."

 

 

Just as we should stop trying to live up to others' expectations of us, they too, have to stop trying to live up to our expectations of them.

 

We cannot change people.  We truly cannot.  We may be able to see the potential in them, but if they do not see the potential in themselves, then no matter how many demands we make, no matter how much we want to help them, they have to make their own decisions.

 

This can be very, very frustrating because we want to have quality relationships with our loved ones, and we look at our loved one and say, "I could have a quality relationship if only he/she would..."

If we could just tweek that particular little (or big) habit of  into what we want or to what we think it should be, then we could have the relationship we want.

 

But the reality is relationships are a two way street and if our loved one cannot or does not want or is incapable of making a modification in his or her own behavior, then everything we do is not going to work no matter hard much we threaten, scream, organize, demand, issue ultimatums, cry, pout, throw things.................

 

Here are the options.  One, live with it the way it is.  Two, If you cannot live with it, then it might be time to either change your expectations or change your status in the relationship, Three, get help for yourself and reevaluate your role and your own expectations and get yourself into a better space.

 

I am not trying to force you into a separation in the relationship.  I certainly am not.  But how many of us are still in relationships because we think we can change the person or because we are waiting for the person to change.  We are waiting, we have waited, we are still waiting, we will continue to wait.  But when does the waiting end before we consciously recognize that perhaps we will wait forever unless we do something.   

 

Evaluate, clearly, the reality of the situation.  Assess your own expectations of yourself and your loved one.  This may be hard because we don't want to believe that there is something in us that is wrong that may be contributing to the situation.  (I want you know that whatever the situation in the relationship is, you DID NOT cause it, nor can you cure it, but your behavior and expectations may be contributing to it.)

 

I know you say you love him/her.  Do you love them exactly as they are??  Can you live with exactly who they are??  without change??  Or are you still hoping to wake up each morning hoping that maybe today will be different, today maybe he/she will make a change, and thus your relationship will miraculously become new and improved?

 

Think  about it. 

 

Consider how much or little you are hurting.  Will you still continue to be repetitively hurt if you continue the relationship?  Will you continue to hurt if you sever the relationship?

 

All I am asking is that you think about it.  Make your choices with knowledge and willingnesss.  And then be willing to live with the choices you make.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will consider my Soul."

 

You cannot see it, taste it, feel it, smell it, or touch it, yet it exists.  It is the soul.  The soul is the core essence of who we are.  It is the speck of the Divine within us.  It is the intangible part of ourselves that knows every lesson and every experience that we have ever had.  It is a recording of every life we have ever lived.  It holds all the information of every lifetime and every lesson we have ever learned.  It is where our wisdom resides.

 

The soul is why we are here on this earth living a human life.  We live a human life so that we can gain wisdom, so that we can learn lessons, so that we can once again, reunite with the Supreme Divine Essence, the All, the One, the Source, the Force.  Some may call it Heaven, some may call it Nirvana, some may not call it anything at all, but the mere name which we use to refer to it doesn't really matter.  What matters is that the soul exists.

 

It might just be the right  time right now to reconnect with the Divinity with you and recognize that you have a purpose, an ultimate purpose, not in life necessarily, but in Universe.  Your purpose is to recognize the how you life your life contributes to the lessons learned.

 

When the Soul has learned as much as it can from the human experience, it is given the choice of incarnating again or staying in spirit form to continue its journey toward wisdom and reunification with the Divine.

 

So, for today, start giving your soul some consideration.  Think about the life you are living, the lessons you are learning, and your Divine connection to All That Is.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

 

 

 

 

 

 

 



Today's Affirmation

 

"Today I will begin to improve my relationships by articulating when I feel angry or hurt."

 

 

Tell me if this sounds familiar.

 

"What's wrong?"

:::shrug:::eye rolls:::strong huff:::

"C'mon, what's wrong?  Tell me."

:::big strong huff:::grimace:::

"What did I do?  Why are you mad?"

:::frustration building:::anger building::::"You ought to know!  You ought to know what's wrong!  You should know why I'm mad!"

" I don't know!  What did I do?"

"Seriously?  Seriously?  You don't know why I am upset?  C'mon!"

"No, really, tell me!"

:::::head shake::::walk away slamming doors:::

 

 

So here it is:

 

Why should the other person "ought to know" what is wrong with you?  Why should the other person "ought to know" why you are angry with them?

 

Are they psychic?  Can they read your mind?

 

Look, some people legitimately DO NOT KNOW what has pissed you off.  So, unless you tell them, they cannot repair whatever damage they may not have intentionally done to you.

 

Stop being so uppity and just open your mouth and say, "I am angry because...." or "I felt hurt when..." or "It really bothered me that..."

 

What is the big deal?  Are you the center of the Universe that everyone has to revolve around you and read your mind?

 

I know I sound harsh this morning, but I am trying to get you to realize that the mode of your communication may not be fair to the one with whom you are in a relationship.  Sometimes, your friend/lover/sister/brother/colleague/etc.  really, really may not understand the deep inner workings of your emotions and really, really may understand what has upset you.

 

They may look upon their own behavior as normal or natural and not something that others would be upset over.  And they legitimately don't understand. 

 

You must vocalize, as best you can, the reasons why their behavior has hurt you and why you are angry.

 

If you cannot do this, then the relationship has stalled because you will never be able to talk candidly about issues that arise and then resentment sets in which is definitely not a healthy ingredient in a productive relationship.

 

Take my word for it.  At first it may seem difficult to express because you are probably not one who has be trained to communicate effectively.  As time goes on, the more you do your best to articulate the issues, the easier it becomes and the more progress you will make.  Thus, the healthier the relationship.  So give yourself and the other person a reasonable chance to build a healthy relationship based on communication.

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

 



Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I live for myself."

 

 

It never ceases to shock me that we spend so much of our time wondering if we are good enough according to what others tell us.  We strive and strive, banging our heads against the wall and our hearts against the stone trying to live up to others' expectations.

 

Well, maybe it is time to stop wondering if we are good enough according to others' expectations, and ask ourselves if we are good enough for ourselves based on our own expectations.

 

Look. as the old adage goes, you can't please all of the people all of the time.  So, if this is true, and it is, then why don't we just stop what we are doing and just please ourselves, be good enough for ourselves.

 

Think about the time that you have wasted worrying about what others thought, what others wanted.  For some, it might be an entire lifetime!  What has it brought you??  Daily feelings of inadequacy, frustration, low self esteem?  Of course it has.  Trying to live life according to what others, who have not lived our lives,  desire, is absolutely ridiculous!  It's masochistic!

 

Don't be "good enough" for others.  Be "good enough" for yourself.  Live so that you are fulfilled, you are satisfied, you are happy.  Own your life and let others own theirs. 

 

You deserve a good life, so stop denying yourself a life and begin living it knowing that you are good enough.  Please yourself.  Tune out the ones who are constantly making the rules for you to live up to and start living up to your own reasonable expectations.

 

Go ahead, I dare you! 

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will claim authorship of my own life story."

 

What will today bring?  Today is a blank slate on which you can write the story of the day.  How will your story go?

 

We tend to believe, or to live our lives, as if we are a character in a story written by an invisible author and narrated by an unknown narrator.  If this is how you have been living your life, then it is time to recognize that you are your own author; you are the narrator.

 

So pick up the pen and begin writing in earnest.  Begin owning your own story.  Tell it, live it the way that you want it to be.  Stop giving control over the events of your life to someone else who may not care about how the story ends.

 

We are all writers, all authors, with a story to tell, a plot to move through.  We have conflicts and resolutions.  We have characters in our story-some are antagonists-how are we going to write the story so that we, the star of the story, the protagonist, move through the conflict and overcome the villain?  What errors have we made?  Of course, we cannot white them out or erase them, but we can "proofread" our experiences and evaluate them for what they are so that we don't make the same mistakes over and over and over.

 

What is/has been the theme of your story thus far?  Look back and look for patterns of thought and behavior and you might find what the theme is.  If you are happy with the theme you have been living, great, if not, change it.

 

Stop living your life as if you are on a rutterless boat on a violent storm.  Embrace the responsibility you have to captain that boat, to write that story, to own that story. 

 

Remember, you are the only one who can pen the story exactly the way you want the story.  Own it!

 

In Love and Light-Always,

Robin

Today's Affirmation 

 

"Today, I will recognize that all parts of the Journey are necessary."

 

The Journey continues.  Sometimes the journey gets long and it gets hard and we get distracted from our purpose.  (So many distractions out there.)  Sometimes we just get tired and need to pull back for awhile-sometimes only for a few day, and sometimes it's months, and yes, sadly, years.



But the reality is that we are still on a journey.  Everything we do is part of the journey, even the withdrawal.  It's all part of the process.  Everything is necessary. 

So, don't get discouraged if you need to withdraw.  Don't get discouraged when you feel that you that you have abandoned the journey.  You have not.  The journey has just taken a different turn.  And that turn, you will see retrospectively, was necessary to bring you to exactly where your stand.

So, embrace all parts of the journey-the active as well as the passive, and know that all is as it should be in the Universe.

Many blessings.

In Love and Light-Always,
Robin

Today's Affirmation

 

"Today, I will begin removing negative people from my life."

 

 

They are out there.  They are in our places of work, in our families, in our circles of friends-Negative People.  They bring us down.  They rain on our parade.  They never have anything positive to say.  So what do we do?

 

We begin by limiting contact with them, eventually phasing them out of our lives.  We limit conversation with them by only answering the exact question they ask and providing as little elaboration as possible.  That does not mean that we have to be rude, no, put a smile on your face, have the limited discussion, and then excuse yourself as quickly as possible.

Even if you don't want to, send them Light and Love, because if anyone needs it, they do.

Seek out those with whom you resonate, those whose energy is lighter, more positive.  The you release those negative people and embrace the positive people, the more positive energy you will bring into your day and into your life.

Start today.  Have a purpose, and let that purpose be to begin letting go of those who are downers.  Look for those who lighten your life. 

In Light and Love-Always,
Robin